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I just drew this today, been a little down. But hey, there’s ups and downs in life! If you’re reading this and you aren’t doing too good either- it’s okay to have a bad day. Get some rest, take a break, eat and drink! Please stay healthy guys. It’s not good for you to stay up late scrolling- or scrolling all day. Anyways, I hope you have a good day/night!
If you need help, you can talk to me. I may not be the best therapist, but I’ll try. Also, if you may be going through a dark time, it’ll get better. You can push through it, I know you can. You’re a strong person, and if you do anything bad it’ll just make other people sad and worried. People do care about you, even if you don’t think they do.
Anyways, I hope you have a good day/night everyone! Do take a break and stretch, go read a book or draw if you see this.
Bufo visions 🐸 I've always had a deep understanding of the human body, honing my skills to release tension and soothe aches. My clients often call my touch magic, but it's really the result of years of practice and anatomical knowledge. Despite my success, I felt something was missing and explored various spiritual practices, yet none provided the profound connection I sought—until I discovered Bufo. This psychedelic substance from toad venom led me to a retreat in Peru. Guided by a shaman, I inhaled the smoke and felt my body dissolve, becoming pure consciousness in a sea of love and light. I saw my life and understood that the pain I helped others release was also part of my own healing journey. This experience gave me a new purpose: to help people connect with their deeper selves. My clients noticed an immediate difference, feeling relaxed and uplifted as they connected with a forgotten part of themselves. This marked the start of a deeper, more meaningful journey in my practice.
Emotional Vulnerability Theory
On November 27th, 2020 at 7:43 a.m. I created a theory about whether or not people are capable of emotional vulnerability.
Back in ancient times, women were expected to maintain their household and children. Society demanded that men went to war and hunted for food. From this information, I concluded that being capable of emotional vulnerability depended on your society and their expectations for your sex. An emotionally vulnerable person to me is someone who can feel any emotion (depression, anger, jealousy, etc.) and then communicate that emotion to others without fear of judgment.
Historically, men expected to partake in war and hunting. That made them less capable of emotional vulnerability. The reason being, war and hunting both require one thing: being able to kill. Killing another being demands that you disregard your humanity. To become proficient at killing, an individual disregards any feelings of remorse. From this, it was reasonable that men could not allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable because experiencing the vulnerability of any kind made them appear weak or incapable. With war, sadness, anger, and remorse were an experience. Since being sad and remorseful were and are considered signs of weakness, men turn and have turned to anger. Being angry meant that you were strong and capable of slaughtering an entire army. Men were strong, hardworking husbands and fathers. Men repressed feelings of sadness and remorse regarding their actions. And so that was what they did.
The emotional vulnerability of women fluctuated throughout history. In some societies, they expected women to be reserved. Due to this standard, women in these societies repressed their emotions. Other women were allowed to express themselves, so they felt anger, sadness, etc. Women expected to tend to children and the household. Women were supposed to be loving mothers and wives. Because of this, women allowed themselves to feel and experience sadness. Being sad was not a sign of weakness, it was another emotion that got felt.
If the roles of the two were reversed, with men being the caretakers and women the providers, history would have unfolded still. Wars. Empires and kingdoms and territories and tribes. Agriculture. Children. Education. Cultural exchange. Science and mathematics. Men would have struggled for their rights like women did and currently are. Sex has nothing to do with anything. Vaginas and penises are only sex organs. Because you are biologically male, you do not have to repress your emotions. Because you are biologically female, you do not have to take care of your household. There was a choice here, and it cannot depend on your biological sex. It should depend on you and what you want to do. Do you want to be emotionally vulnerable? Okay, cool. Do you not want to be emotionally vulnerable? Okay, cool. As long as this was what you wanted, then others should respect your decision.
Aside from societal expectations, there is a multitude of factors that could influence the capability of emotional vulnerability. Some important things to consider are an individual's childhood, mental health, school life, friends, morals, etc. Let me emphasize again how sex is not a contributing factor to someone's emotional capability.
Here’s an articulated version of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s “We Should All Be Feminists”: https://ameforeignpolicy.files.wordpress.com/2018/02/we-should-all-be-feminists.pdf
As much as Fall/Autumn is my favorite season, it can be hard to be "in the moment" based on mental health needs. The past 2 years have been exceptionally difficult for so many people, and with the capitalist machine firing up "Pumpkin Everything!", it can become a hollow, soul-sucking time for people who don't have any spare energy to enjoy things like they've been told they should. If you're not always into the bliss of Autumn, be kind to yourself. It's a gentler season, but a harder time of life for many people right now, and you don't need to "live your best life" if your heart isnt in it. 🧡
Being chronically ill means lying and saying “I’m fine” when people ask how you are, because if you’re honest about how you actually feel & your symptoms, it makes people uncomfortable.
You end up comforting them, when you’re probably the one who needs comforting 💗
Reminder:
Even if your mental illness or disability is recorded as "high functioning", you will still have bad days where you struggle with them or they get the best of you
And that is okay and very valid!
healing isn’t supposed to be forgetting your emotions and forgetting sadness, it’s the act of welcoming it and learning to love it.
to those of you who got the chance to pick, I want you to know It’s alright, no matter what you picked. We as humans often forget that emotions are something we all need to feel.
like in the movie inside out, Joy kept Riley happy and didn’t let her feel any emotion, but all Riley needed was to feel emotions, any emotions. We all can’t stay happy forever.
happiness is not always a state, (states are also temporary) sometimes it’s a feeling, and feelings or emotions come and go, you’re capable of feeling happiness, you’re capable of letting it all out. And you’re more than worthy of being, just being, being in whichever state warms your heart, if you like sulking then do it.
don’t keep forgetting you’re human too.
xoxo silkprincess786. 💋
this. this is what i want in a relationship.
bill x adhd!reader headcanons !
( before anyone gets upset a) i have adhd and b) this is my account i can write what i want <3 )
alright so i feel like bill is a very organized and put together person, he hates mess and clutter. so at the beginning of the relationship, maybe when u first move in together, he gets really irritated by the constant mess. the constant clutter of your things all around the house
and of course ur not doing it on purpose. u either forget you put something down there bc you got distracted or just bc u have to be able to SEE IT in order to know you have it. ( object permanence problems )
anyways bill wants to bring it up to you, bc he’s an adult, and doesn’t want it to become a problem or fight. so one day he sits you down and tells you it really upsets him when you leave things around the house.
instantly you realize the situation, feeling almost a bit shy and embarrassed. once he finishes his confession you grab his hands and run your fingers over his knuckles. “i have adhd, and i know that’s no excuse for the mess and clutter but sometimes i genuinely forget to pick up after myself or get distracted. i will happily do it just remind me! sometimes it’s hard for my brain.”
bill is a little surprised by your confession but in his mind so many things click. the constant moving, the fidgeting, the fast talking, jumping from subject to subject etc etc
anyways of course bill is accepting and understanding of you, he loves you.
so when he starts to find your shoes at the front entrances or forgotten dishes, he just gives a gentle reminder to you. which works out perfectly, bc you instantly resolve it, you just simply forgot about it.
bill also begins to notice more things about you, keeping note to help make things more accommodating for you
no fruit or any food in drawers, you tend to forget about them and they go to waste
when you have any appointments coming up, he’ll get colorful sticky notes and pin them on the fridge so you don’t forget
bill let’s you talk about your hyper fixation for hours too, which brings you an unknown amount of joy
you just sit there and ramble and ramble, a smile covering your lips, hands gesturing wildly as you bounce in your seat in excitement.
and sometimes you apologize for talking too much but bill always waves you off, telling you he could never get tired of your voice
bill also doesn’t mind when you interrupt him, he knows sometimes you’ll forget what you were gonna say if you don’t get it out quick enough.
he also doesn’t get annoyed when you forget what you were talking about, just simply reminding you of the conversation
bill never mocks or makes fun of you for stumbling or stuttering over ur words, ur brain moves so fast sometimes it’s hard for you to get the words out properly
bill also notices ur sensitivity to sounds when you get overstimulated. he begins to notice the telltale sounds of you becoming overwhelmed
often times you get snappy and aggressive. you begin to bite and pick at your nails. you bounce your leg. tug at your ears. so when he begins to notice, he doesn’t care where you’re at, he’ll take you outside to get some air or take you home if it’s gotten too bad
and he never touches you in these moments unless you initiate it. learning previously from talking with you about how to help you in these moments, physical touch can be a trigger when you’re overstimulated.
bill makes note of when you get under stimulated. he’ll offer things for you to do, asking for your help with something, suggesting you cook or bake. turns on music for both of you to dance to, drives around with you etc etc
bill gets you fidget toys bc he really hates the way you pick at ur fingers and cuticles till they bleed.
he often lays your meds ( if you take any ) and water out on the counter for you in the morning. sometimes you’ll be in such a rush you’ll forget.
he notices how much trouble you have with sleeping too. he’ll do whatever he can, makes you tea, pets your hair, back scratches, a warm bath. even if bill is exhausted, or woken up by you in the middle of the night bc u can’t sleep he never gets irritated bc he knows how frustrating it is, to just not be able to sleep no matter how hard you try
sometimes when you’re laying in bed and you can’t sleep bc your mind is going too fast, bill will ask you to explain what’s happening in ur brain. and you’ll go on and on about the random thoughts you have, eventually relaxing after, or falling asleep during. ur brain calming down temporarily.
bill is one patient man and you couldn’t be more grateful bc let’s be honest the mood swings you get when having adhd, r terrible.
bill and you came up with code words. “peaches” for i want to be held and loved on, and “chocolate syrup” for i want to be left alone please. you don’t even have to speak them, you often shoot bill a text and he understands.
bill also adores ur often hypersensitivity, you’re very empathetic and emotional. but he thinks it’s sweet how deeply you feel. even if it is u crying for the 10000 time over the lion king
you couldn’t be more thankful for him, u don’t think anyone has been so accommodating and understanding in a relationship. ur relationship with bill is built off nothing but love, compassion and trust.
You ever get that feeling where you REALLY need to talk to someone about your problems because you feel like your going to explode if you don’t but can’t because your parents won’t take your issues seriously and you have no friends so the only thing you can do is email your therapist about it and ask for advice from her but the thing is is that she doesn’t check her emails on the weekends so you basically have to suffer with bottling up all your unpleasant and conflicting feelings for two days until she replies? Cause that’s what I’m feeling right now.
I wanna cry really bad so that way I can get all of my emotions out but I can’t cause of the antidepressants I’m on.
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I just skimmed some sections of the essay and oh wow I need to find a therapist that would be down to read this and agree with it. And also oh wow I think I need to read/watch Naruto.
i watch naruto because i can’t afford therapy
It’s going okay
Objectively I have a great life: I am comfortable, loved, and have a job I enjoy. I am getting married. I am looking forward to the future.
Honestly all that is wonderful but it becomes part of a horrible spiral in my mind sometimes. I am not well. The anxious voices in my mind are debilitating at times. It’s better than it was, but it’s still there. And remembering how lucky I am should help but sometimes it just becomes guilt.
I am learning to accept that. I am feeling awful, and it is okay for me to feel awful, or is okay for me to lie down and cry even if there is nothing objectively wrong. My head is just a bad place to be at times.
It’s scarier to screw up something you’ve done a million times before than to screw up something new. Maybe that’s why I’ve been doing better lately. When stuff gets screwed up, it’s because I’m a baby adult who barely knows what to do. Because there’s still people saying “let me help you with that.” You’re new. Let me help carry the load. It makes some things easier. It makes standing on my own a little harder because I have trouble saying no.
I’m doing okay. I cried for half an hour tonight because I felt like my head was going to split open if I didn’t. I’m not even anxious about stuff, I’m just anxious.
I’m doing okay. I’ve got reassurance and safety and security. I’ve got someone to hold me when I cry.
Maybe some day I will be better. Maybe someday I won’t walk on eggshells in my own mind, won’t be scared of the little space between my ears where things get twisted til they’re unrecognizable.
Til then I’m doing okay. And that’s okay.
Pls take care of yourself 🥺. You lighten up the day of a lot of people.
I have trained my brain to take any form of criticism or insult without it affecting me at all
Intrusive thoughts are bullshit am I right? And may I say that the whole “omg they/I let the intrusive thoughts win lmao xD” when doing something “quirky” or “silly” is fucking stupid. That’s not an intrusive thought bestie, that’s an impulse. VERY different. In fact, blurring the two together is very, very harmful. Being tormented by intrusive thoughts is awful, I’ve experienced it for years on end and it fucking sucks. It has been hard to simply function. For me, intrusive thoughts make me fear myself and make me basically gaslight myself saying that I’m losing my mind. This shit will bring me anxiety to the point of physical pain and has rendered me immobile before. I’d have full on breakdowns and meltdowns in the middle of class because of them. I’d lock myself away in my room holding myself and praying that I’m not insane or that I’d be locked away. All because before I didn’t realize these thoughts just happened because that’s how the stream of consciousness works.
But luckily lately I’ve been able to handle them better, so now when I get them I know that it is an intrusive thought only because of how alien it is to my mind. I just remember it’s an intrusive thought and I calm down a little, knowing that it isn’t me and it’s not something I would do. It’s just a junk thought in the stream of consciousness.
So please…. Please don’t confuse intrusive thoughts with impulse.
Sometimes you just gotta forget the mental illness and say "fuck it we ball"
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