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Things I want people to know and accept:

Marriage is not for everyone

Children are human beings and not resources to be used

Not all children are biological

Assuming that all the people who don't want to get married are only doing it bc they love their phones is dumb

Romance and sex are not necessary for a happy life

No one has the right to force anyone to marry

Pregnancy and raising children are not easy choices to make and have severe consequences if not taken seriously

To the people who don't support this;

fuck you

Found this on Pinterest, but count this screenshot as a reblog

This time of year can be frustrating for people in the aro/ace community.

I will be here, whenever you need to talk. 

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??? What the fuck was the goal here? You hate aros as an aro? That's literally what you are saying. The only difference is the ace part. Your just harassing your own people dude.

Why does our own community hate us? Seriously?

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They are being extremely toxic in the comments as well:

... I find it funny people say shit and expect others (Like me) to turn a blind eye to it. 💀

Her eyes widened a little but they softened as she listened more. There was...relief on her face. Like she found someone like her for the first time in so long.

“I’ll be honest, I never really agreed with that. The whole ‘repopulate’ thing. I think that should be done out of love, never necessity,” She says shrugging. “It should be of choice, and you should never do something that you didn’t choose.”

Growing up away from those two opposing sides, she didn’t really have a mindset to base her opinions off of. Or a place to shut her ability to express herself. To find out who she was as Shimabukuro, not as a COG or an Outsider. She found out that she liked both girls and boys but not like other ‘normal people would. But there was also something she found out as well.

“And I did. She was a girl named Jean. She was in the COG as well, but I never really cared that she was. I wasn’t really into anybody, you know, sexually. Later I found out that’s what it’s like to be asexual,” She admits. Emotions swell in her throat as she continues to open her secret heart.

 “I used to think that something was wrong with me, because I didn’t feel the same things as normal people did.  I was afraid if I told someone, even her, she’d look at me the wrong way, and confirm everything I thought to be true about myself.”

“But I love being with people, and I care for them so much. I still feel, and I don’t feel that way about myself anymore

“I guess...Maybe that’s why I never really cared about the physical aspects of anybody. Maybe that’s why I just care and feel so much more than other people do. Just like you do with Wade. That’s such a human thing and that’s not your fault. Just as much as it isn’t mine.”

"tbh we might have clowned on [aros & aces] a lil too harshly" bigotry. the term you're looking for is bigotry. denying communities their vocabulary and ability to safely exist because you think you're the personal arbiter of which identities are "valid" is bigotry. minimizing and infantilizing and harassing entire groups of people based on their orientation is bigotry. aphobia isn't some forgettable phase of being cringe as a teenager, it's bigotry that inflicted long term damage to these communities.

And for June because I’m a sucker for Aroace Lloyd, AU where the public finds out about Lloyd being Not Entirely Human TM because some kid raised by two aphobes somehow managed to find the topic of him being aroace in conversation with him.

Since they’ve heard something about how “romantic/s3xual attraction is what makes us human,” the kid’s first reaction is to be like, “so are you not human?”

And Lloyd proceeds to internally panic SO MUCH that he doesn’t even notice as multiple different Dragoni traits, many of which he didn’t even know he HAD, pop out one by one.

Cue chaos.

Now that we've talked about Hazbin Hotel, Bojack Horseman and One Piece being ace representation, here's the top 3 pieces of media that get negative ace rep points from me. As in, the implications of these are so bad that I'm considering them negative representation. Censoring the last two so the fans don't come after me.

#1 — No Hard Feelings (2023)

I genuinely cannot believe this aired in 2023 and I keep asking myself who greenlit this because aside from being possibly the most aphobic movie I ever heard of, the entire premise is concerning. The movie is about parents of a 19 year old boy hiring a 32 year old to date and have sex with their son because they're concerned about him not wanting to do those things. The 19 year old boy is then repeatedly pressured into sex, groomed and fixed and by the end of the movie he's finally interested in sex and romance! The 32 year old faces 0 repercussions for this and they're friends now! I swear to god...

#2 — The B1g Bang The0ry (2007—2019)

I don't think I even need to explain this one but I don't take it personally as an ace person specifically because this show gets negative representation points for pretty much every minority under the sun.

#3 — Myßtic Messeπger (2016)

Maybe this was just my naivete at not knowing the Otome Game scene and how they usually handle things at the time I played it (and I really hope people don't rip me to shreds for this bc i know a lot of people love this game) but having one of the love interests in a dating sim state "I am not very interested in sexual attraction", being generally very ace-coded, then throwing that out of the window and making him a possessive yandere character who locks you in his apartment and in one of the endings starts a 50 Shades of Gray—esque kink dynamic with you was a terrible experience that to this day affects my trust in the creators of any piece of fiction I get invested in tbh. I grieve the money I spent on it.

With Pride Month right around the corner, my mind keeps reminding me of homophobia I’ve experienced over the years. Here’s some that I experienced from one Christian guy I used to be friends with:

Got mad every time I called myself gay (his reasoning was only guys exclusively attracted to guys could call themselves gay)

Said bisexuality and pansexuality were the same

Wouldn’t let me call myself pan in his presence

Called me the wrong pronouns even after the MANY times I’ve told him the pronouns made me uncomfortable

Told me I was an idiot for believing intersex people exist and also don’t need “fixing”

Called me a lesbian even though I’m not one

Thought I was greedy for being pan

Told me I’d grow out of being trans

Said they/them pronouns made zero sense

Was 10x more homophobic toward me after learning I wasn’t a girl

Told me I’d never not be a girl and was delusional for thinking otherwise

Thought the fact that I occasionally am repulsed by romance made me immature

Argued with me about the existence of bigender and intersex people

Used the h-slur for intersex individuals

Claimed lgbt didn’t exist before 2000

Thought that me being trans meant I was lying to myself and everyone around me

Told me I claimed to be trans because I didn’t like who I was

Referred to me as an object and it/its pronouns after I told him she/her made me uncomfortable (Note: nothing wrong with people who use it/it’s pronouns, but they’re not my pronouns)

Called me childish for my occasional sex repulsion

Told me that me being lgbt “went against God”

Called me a slut for being pan and for being polyamorous

:33 < if someone whos aroace tells you they like someone and asks you to call them a (insert any form of teritary attraction) do it. youdont get to pick the name you call them. youdont get to call them a "crush". that isnt your choice. just tell me youre aphobic/see forms of teritary attraction as "lesser" or "not real" without telling me

Is there a way I can beat the shit out of someone on the internet? I just came across an aphobe-