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i see a post talking doom and gloom about how we'll never escape toxic masculinity. i think about back in 2017 when american girl released their first boy doll, and a review for him went viral in the collecting community. the review was written by a mom, who said they went into the store to get their daughter a doll, only to see their son's eyes light up like fire when he saw a doll that looked like him, and now every night he puts his doll in pajamas and rocks him to sleep. i think about the toddler in my daycare room a few years back who was obsessed with baby dolls, carrying them everywhere, and his mom proudly told us he uses his sisters' old baby dolls and wants to be just like them. that toddler saw another toddler crying one day and gave her the doll he had to cheer her up. i think about the eight-year-old boy i saw a few years back, excitedly waving around raya's sword in a target checkout line like all his dreams were coming true. there was a video on my instagram the other day of a little boy at disneyworld crying with joy upon meeting his hero, mulan. i think about the voice actor for bow in the she-ra reboot saying his nephews only wanted adora action figures. celebrity men are wearing dresses on tv now. last halloween i saw a little boy dressed as elsa. i went to go see spiderverse over the summer, and in the line ahead of me was a boy who couldn't be older than twelve or thirteen, bouncing and beaming, giddy with excitement over getting to see the female-led romance movie elemental. i think about the five-year-old boy at my library who breathlessly asked me where the pinkalicious books were, eyes widening when i had more on my cart, his mom explaining that he is all about pinkalicious and fancy nancy. i saw so many pictures online of boys and men dressed in pink to see barbie. teenage boys are gonna open their phones and see the man who wrote fucking game of thrones dressed in pink to see barbie. when i was a kid, a boy dressing in pink was practically a social death sentence. there are boys running around in pink on my street right now.
completely off-topic, but this blog has enough reach to tell the people what they need to know
yaoi is a staple in the animal kingdom
the males of many, many species will have gay sex with each other to attract females who think guy-on-guy is hot
i’m not joking; this is real
fish yaoi real
"In her book "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys", Lucy Neville argues that male-male erotica, Boys Love, slashfic, yaoi are very popular among women in part because they make more space for versatility and fluidity than heterosexual conventions will allow.
If women were submissive by nature, why would they sexually identify with men to this extent?"
Source: Twilight | ContraPoints
Blackness to me is inherently gender nonconforming largely because we will never fit into binary white supremacist notions of manhood and womanhood.
To any trans man who needs to hear this: When they say they “hate all men” or want to “kill all men,” you don’t have to just accept that. It’s okay to feel hurt, it’s okay to feel unsafe. It’s okay to recognize that they are either othering your manhood or demonizing you for it, and to call them out for it if you’re in a position to. If they have trauma around men, they can work on that in private instead of expressing harmful sentiments around their marginalized male friends. You deserve love and safety. I love you and I hope I can help you feel safe.
its hard not to draw a line between the "heheh, of course i'm a safe person, I used to be a woman" type trans guy and the incresibly upset reaction certrain transmascs have to being told they have privilage over transfems and are a potential danger to them.
every single negative stereotype about women was dreamt up by men who were projecting. fight me about it.
Any shit that acts like women just don’t understand how lonely cis men are fundamentally assumes that women don’t feel as deeply as men. They’ll concede that yeah, sure, women get lonely too, but that their silly female feelings can’t possibly compare to the deep tragedy men, the Main Character of the universe, go through. But what it really comes down to is an inability to reckon with the fact that women get just as lonely and depressed as cis men and yet don’t commit 98% of mass shootings and 90% of global homicide like they do. It’s much easier to excuse men choosing to be violent by acting like they have special sad feelings uwu that justify rape and murder than to examine the ways the patriarchy makes cis men feel entitled to hurt people because of their big sad feelings, and then constantly makes excuses for their actions
I know I've complained about this before but I'm still disgusted that men continue to spit on the sidewalk every day during a god damned pandemic. I actually avoid walking on the sidewalk by the boy's Catholic school down the street from my apartment because it's always completely coated in spit. Teach your sons some god damn basic hygiene like don't coat the sidewalk with your nasty saliva during a fucking pandemic. Actually don't cover the sidewalk with your nasty saliva ever because that's gross and I don't want to be tracking your gross saliva into my home, not ever but especially not during a pandemic.
"In 1984, a few years before his death, James Baldwin explained to an interviewer from the Village Voice that queers could see the precarity of heterosexuality, even as straights kept it hidden from themselves. 'The so-called straight person is no safer than I am, really. The terrors that homosexuals go through in this society would not be so great if society itself did not go through so many terrors it doesn't want to admit.'
As Baldwin saw it, it is not simply that straight people are suffering and in denial about it, but that heterosexual misery expresses itself through the projection of terror onto the homosexual. One way to think about this is that homophobia is the outward expression of heterosexual misery; a kind of subconscious jealous rage against the gendered and sexual possibilities that lie beyond the violence and disappointments of straight culture."
-Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality
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Fool of day, happy yes?
Vernacular alike interchangeable of flesh, inner vigor tamed to one of cousin
Fool of day, happy yes?
Vernacular alike interchangeable of flesh, inner vigor tamed to one of cousin
I shake my spoon jar
But it does not rattle
Because it is empty